Last week we focused on the story of Richman, who is divorcing his wife, Alina. She has two children from a previous marriage but wants to hold him accountable for all their expenses. His story is not an isolated case; it is one of many unfolding across our country.
Richman represents a certain kind of man — those who put their full trust in their spouses. These men sacrifice everything to keep their families happy. You won’t find them wasting time in taverns or chasing nightlife. Their lives revolve around hard work, sound financial decisions, and building stability. They are easy to spot: disciplined, focused, and distinguished by their relentless pursuit of progress.
The Alina Type
On the other side, there are women like Alina. Their mission is simple: secure a wealthy man at all costs. If they cannot find one, they will take one from another woman. They are almost irresistible and highly skilled at approaching men who seem unapproachable. Once they latch on to hardworking, unsuspecting men, they ensure they have complete control over them. The Bible itself warns of such women — those who ensnare men with charm but leave destruction in their wake.
The Case of Robert
Richman’s ordeal reminds me of another man from Tshitakani village. Let’s call him Robert.
Robert was a teacher, a devout churchgoer, and admired by his community. He married a beautiful woman who already had two children from previous relationships. She was not from the local villages, so little was known about her. Their wedding was spectacular — glamorous beyond words.
Within a year, they relocated to a suburb far from Tshitakani. That was when the cracks began to show. Robert’s wife started travelling frequently to visit relatives he had never heard of before. Every month, she would disappear for three or four days. Isolated from his family and friends, Robert endured this in silence.
One day, Robert’s younger brother attended a major soccer match in Johannesburg. To his shock, he spotted Robert’s wife in the arms of another man. Their intimacy left no doubt. Discreetly, he took photos and sent them to Robert, who was watching the same game on TV.
Robert demanded that his brother confront her immediately after he failed to get hold of her on her cell phone, but the younger man refused. “It’s not my job to confront your wife,” he said.
That night, Robert poured out his frustration for the first time to his younger brother. “My wife always has reasons to leave me behind with the children. I have tolerated this for too long. This time she claimed her uncle was gravely ill in Johannesburg. I allowed her to go, though I doubted her story. Thank you, my brother. Without you, I would never have known.”
Robert asked, almost helplessly: “Do you think she is in love with that man in the picture?” His brother was stunned. The evidence was clear, yet Robert still sought reassurance. Men like Robert — trusting, devoted, and forgiving — are the ones women like Alina exploit.
The Cost of Trust
Robert eventually divorced his wife. But the divorce came at a heavy price: he lost his mansion and half of his pension in the settlement. The law once again stood firmly on the woman’s side.
VKRA’s Warning
Men, be aware: we are living in an era where men’s lives are treated like disposable waste. Many will die from strokes brought on by stress. Others will waste away in jail cells. The few survivors will die poor.
All because of laws that are not always focused on the realities men face.